Love and Relationship (by Adima, 2014)
First of all: I am a relationshipper ;-). Choicelessly. It was simply so. Relationship was my path and relating still is mirror and teacher on my path in sharing with my beloved and others.
Ultimately it does not matter for realisation or liberation whether or not you have many or none so called relationships. It is a question what type you are. And also how daring and open you are to experience the fullness of the human experience.
At some point we all find out that love cannot be done and is very contradictory. Love needs two people ... to learn to be one ... and in the end with great luck to become love itself.
Whenever there are two poles, there is also separation and that feels painful.
As long as one thinks of oneself as a "somebody", as a separate entity there will be a relation to ANY object which appears in one's perception, whether that is a "thought object", a "feeling object" or a "love object".
The attachment in us is to perceive oneself as separate. That is what we know. Then we try to get anything from "the other" that can alleviate the pain of this separation.
This is the painfully wrong concept (as we all know).
Every relationship is an invitation to grow deeper into and out of duality, a challenge to look more closely: who am I really? Who is this alleged somebody who "has the relationship"? AND ALSO: Who is "the other?"
In moments of love there is no other ...
In relating we are both: two individuals and oneness, as we are also both: mind with thinking and presence as silence
Sharing the humbling challenges of being together in the human experience wants personal honesty and invites real intimacy. What it needs is space. Space happens in openness (of mind and heart) and leads to sharing in truth.
I never experienced love as easy, yet ... over time a mind blowing and heart widening simplicity spreads in love.
Let me know your experience?!